Gottman Method Couples Therapy
The Gottman Method of Couples Therapy was developed by Drs. John and Julie Gottman to apply the insights gained from their research to the task of helping couples. Over the past 40 years they have studied thousands of couples and from the research we now know how to help couples have successful relationships and how to understand and avoid relationship pitfalls.
The approach is a practical one that couples can immediately relate to and apply to their relationship. It is a form of couples therapy that makes sense. Unhappy, conflicted couples can learn the skills and attitudes which make for happy, successful relationships.
Couples who enter into Gottman Method Couples Therapy begin with an assessment process that then informs the therapeutic framework and intervention. As a Certified Gotttman Therapist, it is imperative that I thoroughly understand a couple’s relationship in order to be effective in helping the couple to make necessary changes to improve the quality of the relationship.
During this initial assessment phase, we will start with a conjoint session. This session will then be followed by an individual session with each partner. Couples will also complete an online questionnaire and then receive detailed feedback on their relationship in the fourth session. This session provides insight into the focus of therapy and the plan for moving forward.
Therapeutic Interventions are designed to help couples strengthen their relationships in three primary areas: friendship, conflict management, and creation of shared meaning. Couples learn to replace negative conflict patterns with positive interactions and to repair past hurts. Interventions designed to increase closeness and intimacy are used to improve friendship, deepen emotional connection, and create changes which enhances the couples shared goals. Relapse prevention is also addressed.
Marathon Therapy (or Intensive Couples Therapy)
I offer marathon therapy/intensive couples therapy for couples that want to get started on the therapy process immediately versus coming to weekly sessions. I spend 15-20 hours with a couple over the course of 2-3 days. These extended sessions offer couples the opportunity to process their issues in an in-depth way without running out of time.
Many couples who have experienced both traditional therapy and marathon therapy have stated that the marathon sessions helped them make progress more quickly. Marathon therapy is designed to help couples deal with their conflict, while going beyond the problems of the relationship to help the couple re-build their basic relationship.
We will use tools, techniques and couple therapy exercises, also known as interventions. These couple therapy exercises have been proven to improve couples communication skills. And, these tools are simple to use. They are yours to keep and to practice at home after you have completed your treatment.
I see individuals struggling with the following:
• Marriage / relationship difficulties
• Stress management
Because each client is different and unique in regards to his/her presenting concerns, I will use the method of therapy that I believe will help the client meet his/her individual goals in the best manner possible. The methods that I typically incorporate into the therapy are Cognitive Behavioral Therapy and Solution Focused Therapy.
Cognitive Behavioral Therapy, a talking therapy, is based on the idea that our thoughts associated with different situations or events cause our feelings and behaviors. This method of therapy is used to help clients overcome/change negative thought processes and the feelings stemming from these thoughts that are impeding their individual growth.
Solution Focused Therapy focuses on what clients want to achieve through the therapeutic process. This method of therapy focuses on the present and the future, not the past. My job, through the use of this technique, is to help the client decide what they'd like their future to look like and together come up with small, attainable steps to help the client accomplish his/her ultimate goals. Together, we will tap into the strengths and resources that the client already uses to help the client make the necessary changes in his/her life in the present while developing the skills necessary to make similar changes in the future.